Many of us are not going to be in a situation that requires knowledge of proper tea etiquette and what to do and not to do when invited for a tea party, but who knows! And if you want to host a little tea party of your own then it makes sense to know a bit of the protocol.

What the Hostess Needs

Good quality bone china is desirable for a tea party. Napkins should preferably be cloth or linen. Adequate crockery and cutlery as well as plates and trays should be available for the snacks being served. The tea is always poured by the hostess and it is she who needs to ensure that refills are provided as and when needed. A clean, well ironed table cloth is a good idea; make sure there are no holes or stains.

Keep at hand milk, lemon and sugar cubes (with tongs) so that the guests have a choice. Remember milk and lemon never go together, as the milk will curdle if lime is added. Also milk should be used for tea and not cream; since cream is too heavy for tea and is more suitable for coffee.

Tea Etiquettes for the Guest

Drinking tea with the little finger extended is a complete no-no; it is simply considered bad manners. Hold the handle with the thumb and first two fingers; the ring finger and the pinkie should be curled below the handle and pointing to the wrist. Try not to clink the spoon in the cup as you stir the tea and remember to take the spoon out of the cup and lay it to the side in the saucer before drinking it. Never swirl the tea in the cup; if required use the spoon again to stir.

If there are snacks being served, remember to take small bites and do not speak with your mouth full. Don’t use your napkin to blot your lipstick or to blow your nose; the hostess will not thank you for it. Be polite and considerate of your hostess as well as other guests. Remember a good guest is one that gets invited again; so make sure your good manners stand you in good stead in terms of social popularity.

A tea party is a time occasion of social niceties and refinement. It is important that one’s manners and social conduct are befitting the circumstance and the enjoyment of tea as being among the finer things in life.

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